Thursday, November 20, 2008

Getting closer to Japanese

Why are relationships so difficult?

What is the reason for misunderstanding?

Is it
- cultural differences
- personality differences
- communication in a foreign language
- communication through email and SMS
- differences between men and women
- circumstances?

God help me.

5 comments:

Ana said...

They aren't any easier back in Slovenia ... So cultural differences are out. Also №3 ...
№4 - not key problem.
№5 - in my opinion necessary!
Personality differences - as our brothers say: 100 ljudi, 100 čudi ;)

PS: I didn't know you believe in God ... ;)

Anonymous said...

Razlike v dojemanju sveta, odnosov med ljudmi krasno predstavi droben roman belgijske avtorice Amelie Nothomb, ki je prva leta preživela na Japonskem, potem pa se čez dolgo let spet vrnila tja za nekaj časa. Naslov: S strahospoštovanjem.
Prav lep pozdrav in veliko sreče pri navezovanju stikov!
Mateja

Tina said...

Ana, I don't. This was just my way of saying how hopeless the situation is. :)

I agree with you to a certain extend, but I can see how surprised you'd be how much the Japanese culture adds to the rest of confusion!

Tina said...

Mateja, hvala za ta naslov. Sem prebrala review-je (kaksna je slovenska beseda za to?) na internetu in zgleda super!!! Morem nujno dobit. Tukaj je bolj tezko kupit angleske knjige, ampak bom vseeno probala najt.

Ben said...

All of the above! And probably loads more. It is a miracle they aren't harder, I guess that people just want to be together so much that they muddle through the difficulties and misunderstandings. And in addition, you might even relish the difficulties, since you learn from them, and if the person is of a different culture, you are learning about different cultures. You came to a foreign University and got used to English people already, so you know it is possible :) Although maybe English and Slovenians are very similar. Or maybe you are not used to English people ;)